Myths vs. Facts about Grief

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Dealing with the loss of a loved one can be incredibly difficult. It is a part of life that leaves pretty much everyone, appropriately put, at a loss – we don’t know which way is the right way to deal with it. The truth is that there is no “right way” of dealing with death because everyone processes it differently, and that’s okay. There are several myths that we sometimes tell ourselves in the face of grief which aren’t necessarily the case:

Myth: Ignoring the pain will make it easier and go away faster.
Fact: Pushing your pain to the backburner or ignoring it completely will, in fact, only make it last longer – and make it much worse to deal with in the long run. In order to truly heal, we must face our loss head on and actively deal with it.
Myth: It’s necessary to “stay strong” when dealing with death.
Fact: Feeling sad, lonely, or lost are natural responses to loss. Crying isn’t a sign of weakness! You don’t owe it to anyone, even your friends and family, to put up a brave front. This is your pain, and showing it can help them help you.
Myth: If you don’t cry, it means you’re not really sad.
Fact: Crying is a normal reaction to sorrow, but it isn’t the “right” or only one. Those who don’t cry may very well be feeling the loss just as deeply as those who do, they just show it in a different way.
Myth: Grief should last about a year.
Fact: There isn’t a right or wrong time frame for your grieving process. Each person goes through the experience differently, and it doesn’t mean anyone is stronger than another based on how long it takes.

Dealing with loss is painful any way you slice it, but we can take comfort in knowing that there is no wrong method of coping. The key to healthy grieving is letting yourself feel, in order to truly heal.