Digital Inheritance: Who Gets Your Facebook Account?

When you visit a financial planner, they help you plan your tangible assets like money, real estate, personal possession, etc. But what happens to digital assets like your online banking information, email and social media accounts? The first thing you should do is make a list of every website and online accounts you have including PayPal, Netflix, Shutterfly and any other websites you visit. Step two: decide how you want each site to be handled after your death. You should decide if your accounts will be deleted, forwarded to a loved one or memorialized, if available. Step three: deciding who should handle your digital affairs. Lastly, make sure to keep your list of accounts in a safe place and make sure it stays updated. If your electronic devices like laptops or phones are locked, make sure at least one person you trust knows the password. If you are unsure what you want to happen to your online accounts, read each site’s policy. Google allows you to set a timeframe of inactivity before your information deletes or is transferred to someone of your choosing. Facebook also allows you to decide what happens to your account. It is important to start to think about how you want your digital presence to handle after your passing because a lot of our personal information is now online. Who do you trust to handle your digital...
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Continuing your Family Legacy through Food

What is the meaning behind a family legacy? When close friends, family and loved ones pass away they leave with us gifts that remind us of them even after they’ve passed. From photos, journals, and even handwritten recipes passed down through generations. The tradition of food has always brought people together; during the best of times, and the worst of times. Often some of our strongest memories revolve around food – whether it be homemade biscuits and gravy that you made alongside with your Grandma on a Sunday morning or enjoying any number of homecooked meals growing up. Saving old family recipes can sometimes be a daunting task. All depending on the quality of saved recipes. If you’re gathering recipes, and planning on making them into a book, check out these resources to get you started: Cookbook software resource – This source provides an excellent option for making your very own cookbook’s adding in recipes, photos, etc. Making a cookbook using Microsoft Word – This set of instructions walks you through how to take and convert recipes to electronic form. While there’s a lot to be said about converting recipes into digital form it’s important to pay tribute to all the originals; like adding in ‘pinches’, ‘dashes’, and ‘scoops’ to make the perfect nostalgic meal from your childhood.  Bringing your family recipes to the digital age is important as well. To ensure they are saved and can be enjoyed by future generations to...
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How To Prepare Your Love Ones For An Inheritance

Dealing with the loss of a parent is already a confusing and an emotional time. Real life isn’t like the movies as when you die you take all your worries with you and your kids easily receive your inheritance. There are fees, taxes and much more your child will have to deal and sort through. Help make the process easy for them by preparing your finances and talking to your children. Schedule a meeting with a financial advisor and begin the process of choosing your beneficiaries. Your advisor will explain to you what exactly are your options. Once you have made your decisions set up another meeting with your advisor and your children. It will be extremely helpful if they exchange information because your advisor will be able to walk your children through the process once you are gone. They will be able to explain IRA rollover and be updated on any new changes that might have occurred. Your advisor might suggest for you to visit with a lawyer to set up a will. A will isn’t necessary but it will make everything go much smoother after you have passed. You will be able to decide how your family will handle your properties and belongings. If there is a special painting you want a niece or cousin to have, you can put that in your will and they will be able to receive it. You can add any funeral preplanning details you have done into your will. A will saves your family from arguing over how to handle your affairs. Talking to your loved ones about how to handle your estate after you are gone, isn’t signing your death certificate. It is alleviating them from having stress and arguing with loved ones in the future. If you have any questions about preplanning give our office a call,...
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Dealing with the Unexpected Holiday Grief

The holiday season may not be so jolly for most. At any time, grief can sneak up and magnify your emotions. The realization of your loved one not being there for another part of your life is difficult; it sucks. The question of “should you hide your grief or let it out” is one that needs to be answered. How you choose to grieve during the holidays is up to you. It is healthy to speak about the loved one who died. It is healthy to lose your motivation to put on a cheery face. It is also healthy to reminisce about the good times. If you ever feel your way of dealing with grief isn’t healthy, talk to someone. Understand that if you need a day apart from everyone, take it. Just be careful to not completely miss the chance of creating new memories with others. If it is painful to do old traditions, change them a little bit. You will not be dishonoring your loved one. In fact, you can add a new tradition to honor them. Adding or creating a new tradition has helped many to deal with grief during the holidays. If you are grieving during the holidays, know that you are not alone. It is okay to feel weird going through the holidays without that special someone. After a loved one dies, everything changes. It is up to us to rebuild our lives and live through the...
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Grief in the Silver Screen

What grief looks and feels like varies from person to person. One way to understand grief from different perspectives is by watching movies. Movies always mirror real life, some better than others. There are movies about preparing for the death of a loved ones, the journey on the final days of a loved one, or the journey after the death of a loved one. Have some tissues ready because here is a list of movies who capture grief perfectly:   Up (2009) This animated film stirred up more feelings in the first 15 minutes than any other movie at the time. If you had a chance to watch it in theatres you probably heard a lot of sniffles. This story is about how Carl, an old widow, refuses to leave his home he shared with his beloved wife. The adventure he takes helps him grieve for his wife. This film teaches different lessons about life. Lullaby (2014) Lullaby shows the journey of a family who has to come to terms that their father has chosen to die after a long battle with cancer. This film sparks the conversation of assisted death and how it affects everyone around you. The Descendants (2011) George Clooney plays a father who has to make some tough life choices after his wife ends in a coma after a horrible accident. He faces the challenges of trying to connect with his daughters who are also coping with their mother’s possible death. He goes through anger and sadness. A Monster Calls (2016) This movie shows the coping mechanisms a child uses to cope with the possible death of a loved one. A Monster Calls is an adaptation of the novel of the same name.  This movie gives the perspective of what a looming death looks like to a child. My Sister’s Keeper (2009) Watching this film makes you wonder if it is based on a true story. This movie tells the story of a young girl who wants to become emancipated from her parents who conceived her to be a bone marrow donor for her older sister. This movie demonstrates how hard death can be when you see it knocking at your door. P.S. I Love You (2007) P.S. I Love You shows the long journey of grieving. This movie does a great job showing how grieving can take longer than a year for some. It...
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Advance Funeral Planning

The thought of walking into a funeral home is terrifying. Most of the time you only set foot in a funeral home after someone you know has passed. The days following a death of a loved one are chaotic. There is a lot of planning that needs to be done for the funeral. Money must be gathered and decisions need to be made within a few days. Often these decisions are driven by grief and guilt rather than a sound mind and rationalization. Advance funeral planning helps cut down the stress and pressure a loved one goes through when planning a funeral. The best part about prearranging is that you get to pick everything for your own funeral. From the music, to the clothing even the verses you want read and who to invite. Prearranging is simple and truly lifts a burden from you family. Your loved ones will be able to focus on you and your life. The pressure of worrying if the decisions made for you about your funeral arrangements would please you, will be gone. By prearranging your funeral, you would also eliminate the financial burden for the ones left behind and in most cases, save a significant amount of money as well. The first step in planning your ceremony is setting an appointment with a funeral director. You do not have to start planning right away, but this initial meeting will help guide you through the process and look at your options. The next step is deciding how much you want to preplan. You can decide everything from the music playing and programs to flowers arrangements. Or you can just choose the most common items like a casket. Overall you have final say on what exactly you would like to prearrange. Advance funeral planning is beneficial for you and your family. Help your loves by contacting McMahan’s Funeral Home to set up an Advance Funeral Planning...
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